Q: What has been the most joyous aspect of breastfeeding for you?
Not only being able to nourish my baby, but the emotional connection, its natural soothing properties, and the closeness it provides. We are in sync, which blows my mind how special this bond is! I’ve had feeding challenges, which makes me even more proud of how determined I have been to make this journey work for us. It continues to be such a privilege and personal achievement for me.
Q: What has been the most challenging aspect of breastfeeding?
Our journey has not been glamorous by any means. There have been breast refusals, bottle refusals, oversupply, limited feeding positions, bouts of mastitis, a hysterical baby, and so many tears. I felt like I was failing to do the most basic, natural thing. I almost gave up on breastfeeding, it all became too difficult.
My baby had with lip and tongue ties and had to undergo a procedure to revise these. Before the procedure, I was completely housebound due to our feeding struggles. I felt incredibly isolated in one dark room, trying to make it work. I would be so stressed with visitors coming to meet the baby. I would always try to feed my baby before people arrive, but then…. what if it doesn’t work? I would have to ensure there was a backup plan or excuse to step away to manage it. It was so difficult to compose myself and show my ‘happy’ face with my beautiful new baby, yet we were having so many challenges. Nobody understood what it was like.
After the procedure, I had to relearn how to re-feed my baby through ongoing rehabilitation and most importantly, work on our connection. I am grateful to have such a helpful partner, who has always supported my goal to continue breastfeeding, even when he suggested it would be easier for all of us if I stopped. However, we have made it!
My journey has involved a lot of professional support from an IBCLC and paediatric osteopath/ IBCLC to help us sustain breastfeeding. And, I’ve had to use nipple shields for over eight months. I hate the damn things, but it’s what works for us!
The more I talk about my challenges, the more women start to speak up about theirs. It shouldn’t be secret women’s business. Let’s talk about the good, the bad, the ugly, and celebrate our achievements.
Q: What would you like other breastfeeding mothers/parents to know about breastfeeding?
Breastfeeding can be very challenging and a really raw, personal experience. If you are committed to the journey and experience some difficulties, reach out early for support via an IBCLC. They are specialists in the field, and an incredibly experienced and supportive professional to be a part of your village.
Photography by Studio Daydot
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